Christian Living, Guest Posts

Tears, Testimonies, and Trust: a Guest Post

Hey, it’s me, Danny! Don’t worry I’m still totally alive! Hehe. I’ve just been very. . . busy. And that’s to anyone who was wondering why I’m posting so late and why it’s not even my post that I’m publishing. 

ANYWAY, I found someone on Ydubs (you’ve heard me talk about it before) who has a message I think some people may need to hear, especially during this pandemic, so I’m sharing it with you guys. I pray that this short but meaningful note will give you hope and peace. Alright, take it away, Eleyna Bennett!

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It’s impossible to describe what it feels like for someone you love to die. Imagine your entire future, your plans for marriage, college, jobs, everything, just gone. Without that person in your life, nothing will ever be the same.

During those days my brother was in hospice, time slowed down. With family members and friends all around me, all here for him in his final moments. Nothing beyond the next minute, the next hour, the next day mattered.

I read a chapter of one of my favorite books to him. I had a mini sleepover with him one night. We watched a movie marathon together as a family. Every second was about him and his precious moments.

I walked into his bedroom, and saw my dad handing my brother to my grandpa. Grandpa was crying. For just a moment, I felt hope. “Is he going to be okay?” I asked. My aunt put her hand on my shoulder and said he was gone.

For weeks after that, and until the burial, I couldn’t find any peace. I fell asleep at night to his face, dreamt of it, and thought about it every waking moment. He had Leukemia, a brain issue. He never spoke or communicated, never ate or moved or did anything without help. So I had known somewhere in the back of my mind that he was living on borrowed time.

Up until that moment, I had relied on my parents’ testimonies to guide me spiritually. But with my brother gone, I now had a lot of personal searching to do. I was worried that I would never see my brother again.

I read my scriptures and said my prayers every day for a week. I didn’t find much relief or comfort. Eventually I had to search my own life for Him.

I learned that my parents were told that my brother would only live to be 2 years old. When he passed his second birthday, they said 4 at the most. When he died, he was 13, 2 years older than me. I was grateful for the time I had with him, and could thank Christ.

I knew that I couldn’t be happy for his death. Even though I knew I would see him again, I knew I would have to live without him. I could however celebrate his life, and long for when I could see him running and playing again.

I still do. I know that my brother is now with my Father, and he is happier than he was trapped in his broken body here on earth.

-Eleyna Bennett

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To those who are or were struggling with something like Eleyna was, I hope that this message touched you, one way or another. I know many of you out there are dealing with similar things. Well, that’s all I have today. Thank you, Eleyna, for this touching message! Goodnight (or morning or whenever you’re reading this). *waves as large red curtain closes*

With God’s help,

Daniel L. Amador

Christian Living, Guest Posts

When Pursuing God is Hard

Hello readers. Today I have the pleasure of announcing RKW (the Right Kind of Writer)’s very first guest post! Our guest today is CoCo Ashley. This post is longer than the usual, but reading it is so worth it! Now, take it away CoCo.

What do you do when life is hard? When God feels silent? When you’re discouraged in your faith?

For me, I used to look back on my “mountaintop” experiences–back to when life was good or when I experienced God in a fresh way–and wish I could go back. I would get frustrated because I knew God was fully capable of doing it again, and yet for some reason, He wasn’t. For some reason, He seemingly decided it was time to halt the forward momentum and growth.

It would lead me to think that God was withholding something from me, or that I was doing something wrong because it seemed I wasn’t growing anymore. 

For example, I would go to church camp and be surrounded by all the hype, and all the leaders would tell me that I could take the truths they had preached during the week home with me. But then I’d get home and stare at the ceiling, wondering where all the joy and excitement had gone. 

However, what I’ve come to learn is that, sometimes, God doesn’t want to do it again. He doesn’t want to give us the same experiences or feelings because He wants to give us something new. Something better. Something we never would have thought possible. And we’ll never discover something new if we are constantly holding on to the old. We shouldn’t place our security on the familiar.

In seasons when God feels distant, we must remember that He has promised to never leave us nor forsake us, and He will always keep His promises. Difficulties and discouragement test us to see where our true loyalties lie. Because for the one who is fully committed to Jesus, there simply is nowhere else to go. We must pursue Him with all that we are even if it feels like we’re shooting in the dark.

The Bible offers us many verses to combat the discouragement and I would highly suggest that you make Scripture your number one resource, but today I would like to share three truths that have helped me personally.

1. We Will Find What We Seek 

When I find myself growing discouraged in my pursuit of God, I love to return to Jeremiah 29:12-13.

“Then you will call upon Me and go and pray to Me, and I will listen to you. And you will seek Me and find Me, when you search for Me with all your heart.”

Jeremiah 29:12-13

It’s always a great reminder that my searching is not in vain. Despite my doubts, my prayers are being heard. Despite seemingly fruitless attempts to find Him in difficult situations, God does see my efforts.  

But we have to be committed to seeking Him with all of our heart. 

God will do His part regardless of our faithfulness (thank God for His grace!) but in my experience, life is so much better when we do our part as well.

There was one particular morning last summer I had planned to get up early to pray, but my alarm never went off and I woke up much later than I had anticipated. I was discouraged, but rather than calling it quits completely, I still decided to give God whatever time I had. And the devotional I read ended up being exactly what I needed… a reminder that God is worthy of my whole-hearted pursuit. 

Here’s what it said: “Do you find it hard to connect with God? Hard to hear his voice? Don’t worry, this is to be expected. God wants to see how much energy you’re gonna put into finding Him and getting to know Him. He’s interested in the chase.” ~Devotions for the God Girl by Hayley DiMarco

His “silence” toward us, or perhaps our own shortcomings, may make it hard to pray, but those are the very moments we ought to pray the hardest.

2. We Will Reap What We Sow

The Bible teaches the concept of reaping what we sow–whatever we plant is the kind of fruit we’ll grow. If we sow half-heartedly, we probably won’t have much fruit to enjoy.

If we spend our time appealing to our senses, feelings, and emotions, we are sowing to the flesh and will reap destruction. We can’t only be Christians when the hype is high. But if we spend our time reading our Bible, praying, and filling our minds with truth–even when it’s hard–we are sowing to the Spirit and will reap eternal blessings. 

We must keep in mind that what is done in secret now will one day be brought to the light. The things we do in private when people aren’t watching (or so we think) are a reflection of who we really are. 

Every year at awards ceremonies, I always wish I had done more. Worked harder. Really given my time and devotion throughout the year so I could feel as though I had made a difference, rather than barely doing the requirements just to earn my empty prizes. It may be easy to appeal to our flesh and skimp in the moment, but when judgment comes we won’t be able to go back and say, “Well, God, I was just waiting for life to get easier.”

I don’t want to find myself in front of God wishing I had done more or started sooner. I don’t want to find myself wishing I had spent more time chasing the things of God rather than the things of earth. I want to hear “well done, good and faithful servant,” so I will press on and keep sowing to the Spirit, even when it is hard.

“Don’t be deceived: God is not mocked. For whatever a person sows he will also reap, because the one who sows to his flesh will reap destruction from the flesh, but the one who sows to the Spirit will reap eternal life from the Spirit. Let us not get tired of doing good, for we will reap at the proper time if we don’t give up.”

Galatians 6:7-9

3. We Will Be Rewarded for Pressing On

If God has promised us something, we can be 100% sure it will come to pass. We just haven’t seen it yet, because God’s timing is different than ours. 

Perhaps God hasn’t opened a door for us because He knows we aren’t ready.

Perhaps He hasn’t come through like we had hoped because He is preparing something better.

Perhaps we haven’t received our answer to prayer because God knows something we don’t.

Whatever the case, we are instructed to live up to whatever truth we have attained (Philippians 3:16), pray constantly (1 Thessalonians 5:17), and trust that God will work out all things for good, for those who love God (Romans 8:28). 

I am always reminded of the story of Daniel, when the angel finally shows up and tells him he came because of his prayers. Let that be an encouragement to us to not give up hope, because help is on the way.

“‘Don’t be afraid, Daniel,’ he said to me, ‘for from the first day that you purposed to understand and to humble yourself before your God, your prayers were heard. I have come because of your prayers.”

Daniel 10:12

God doesn’t call us to be Christians only when it’s easy, nor does He want us to seek Him only when we feel like it. He definitely doesn’t promise we will escape hardship; in fact, He guarantees we will have trouble in this world. 

That’s why the path is called narrow, and why few find it. Unfortunately, it’s also a big reason why people walk away.

But I don’t want to be the Christian who hangs around just long enough for the blessings and feel-good experiences. Instead, I want to be the Christian who will return time and again, even when life doesn’t feel good. Especially when life doesn’t feel good. 

I want to follow Jesus rain or shine.

If God seems far away, or if you’re questioning why He has allowed something to happen, take it to Him. All too often we retreat and try to figure out God on our own, but apart from Him we will never find true understanding. God can handle our questions, and He can handle our doubts.

Even when life is hard, we can press into God and press on to victory, keeping our eyes on Jesus.

We are promised it will be worth it. 

Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and reaching forward to what is ahead, I pursue as my goal the prize promised by God’s heavenly call in Christ Jesus.”

Philippians 3:13-14

CoCo Ashley is a young writer devoted to using her words for the glory of God. She has been writing for as long as she can remember and dreams of one day publishing both fiction and nonfiction. When she isn’t writing, you can usually find her talking with her friends, reading a book, or simply being an introvert with music in her headphones. Connect with her on her blog at cocoschitchat.com.

With God’s help,

Daniel L. Amador

Christian Living

Christians vs. Society; About Discouragement and Encouragement

Grab your atlas, running shoes, (Spanish to English translator,) and a good book! You ready? Let’s go, fam!

Let us face it, friends: We live in a fallen world. Our everyday lives can reflect that. From a little fib, to maybe even physical abuse.

And society hasn’t helped much. We, as Christians, are in a continual battle against society.

What exactly is society? Here is one of the Google definitions: “The community of people living in a particular country or region having shared customs, laws, and organizations.”

Here is my mother’s exact definition of society: “A group of people living together. Establishing culture and customs.”

Now, bear with me because this will get a bit confusing (for both me and you).

Society isn’t really a bad thing, when looked at one way. It’s a group of people who live together, to establish customs, laws, and organizations. But try looking a little closer at its center.

The Google definition doesn’t say “The community of people living in a particular country or region having shared customs, laws, and organizations under God.” It just means the group of people, just themselves. But don’t start thinking “Oh, he’s looking at it too deep, from a different angle without common sense” or anything of the like! Just hear me out!

The society we live in right now is a group of people establishing laws, customs, and organizations, but, not gathering under God, it is chaos. There is so much hatred, discouragement, and just plain wrongdoing, to both others and one’s self.

I suppose what I have been trying to say in 199 words, is that, in this case and sense, society is people not under nor following God. People have been trying to rule themselves since the beginning without God’s guidance.

Alright, we’ve covered that part. Took me long enough.

Now to the point of this post! I would first like to share a story with you all.

I came into the building where my running team would meet. Our coach called us all together, and directed our attention to a piece of cardboard. On it was written ten math problems. We looked at them, and before my coach could explain, one of us pointed to a problem that was wrong, and we backed him up. Our coach then began to explain. He said that we noticed the one wrong one, and completely overlooked the nine right ones.

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Talk about the perfect chance to drop the mic.

He then pointed out that when one of the guys there planned to run five miles, but ended up running four, our coach fist-bumped and congratulated him for the four miles he did run.

He said that so many people focus more on the wrong things people do, and less at the accomplishments that are beside the wrongs.

Then he wrote two things on the cardboard beside the math problems. The first thing he wrote was “yourself”, then, below, “society”. Our coach said that those are the two things that can (and often do) bring us down.

He further explained that we can’t control what society thinks of us, and what it tells us, but we can control what we ourselves think! So many of us -including myself- are guilty of thinking lowly of ourselves. We make one mistake and beat ourselves up for it. In those moments we ignore the accomplishments we have done. We see what other people have done and how they are ahead of us, and we overlook what we ourselves have done, and that we are not in a race. We should try to be like God, not humans.

I have to confess, it’s hard not to feel jealous or unsuccessful when I see other bloggers “getting ahead” or publishing posts on certain topics I wanted to post on but couldn’t get to it first (even if they have been going a lot longer than me!).

I forget sometimes that I’m in this for Christ. I’m living for Him. Not for my own human want. I’m also going at my own pace. We all have our own paces. LIFE IS NOT A RACE!

Let me hand the mic over to God’s word for a second.

Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him.” -1 John 2:15. “If you were of the world, the world would love you as its own; but because you are not of the world, but I chose you out of the world, therefore the world hates you.” -John 15:19. “We know that we are from God, and the whole world lies in the power of the evil one.”-1 John 5:19. I think God says it very nicely. Don’t you?

To continue with what I was saying, we must learn to not hate or beat ourselves up. Friends, we live in a broken world. We are broken humans. And we break ourselves even more when we say: “I’m not good enough.” “I’m too weak.” “I’m not handsome or pretty enough.” “I’m not strong enough.” “I’m not smart enough.”

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LIES!!! THOSE ARE ALL LIES! DON’T BELIEVE THE LIES! SATAN LOVES TO SEE GOD’S CHILDREN HATE THEMSELVES! HE RELISHES AND DELIGHTS IN OUR SELF DOUBT AND LOW SELF ESTEEM! DON’T BELIEVE WHAT THE DEVIL SAYS OR WHISPERS! THE DEVIL IS A LIAR!

My coach said something similar to, “‘Oh, that girl’s too pretty for me to take out’, or ‘oh that class is too smart for me’. Those are lies! That’s deception!”

He’s right. We are strong, wise, and beautiful in Christ. Don’t let society tear you down and tell you you’re not good enough.

I’m not a pastor. I’ve never been to a Bible college. But I know enough to say that life in God is better than anything society can give you. So don’t believe the lies Satan tries to feed you. Stay true to God, and His beautiful Word.

With God’s Help, 

Daniel L. Amador

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